ProudToBeKinky Podcast

Welcome to the #ProudToBeKinky Podcast where we discuss the social and interpersonal side of kink, BDSM, fetish and alternative sexualities. We know it's scary, getting out there and trying to meet a like-minded kinky partner. “What if my friends find out?”, “What will people at work say?” Well you know what... it IS possible and we know because we did it. Now we share our adventures with you. We're not here to gossip... we just want to spread positivity and share with you what worked for us. Helping you in your endeavour to find a dom, sub, play-partner, top, bottom, boyfriend, girlfriend or even just some friends with the same consensual fetishes as you. Please enjoy #ProudToBeKinky.
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Jan 29, 2017
Welcome to Episode #013 of #ProudToBeKinky, this is Part 2 of our ‘Roles & Their Definitions’. Once again it is Bakji and Floss, discussing some of the roles you may encounter when you join the scene, and more specifically Fetlife. While other roles are available, for the purpose of this episode we are discussing the roles available on the FetLife drop down menu, in the general information section of your Fetlife profile. In this episode we cover the roles that are encountered less frequently. We have approached with as much knowledge as we have on each one, but as we said in the previous episode, many roles are open to interpretation and a person's own feeling surrounding their kink identity. If you would like to get in touch about this episode or any previous episodes you can do so on hello [at], or via Instagram, Twitter and FetLife. Especially if you would like to share your thoughts surround one of the roles in this episode. Whilst we really did try to cover everything we could, we didn't get round to Age Play. So we've add it to the list here. Roles Covered in this Episode:
  • Brat
  • Pet
  • Kitten
  • Pup
  • Pony
  • Evolving
  • Exploring
  • Vanilla
  • Undecided
  • Not applicable
  • Primal
  • Primal Predator
  • Primal Prey
  • Doll
  • Furry
  • Kajira
  • Kajirus
  • Sensualist
  • Princess
  • Cuckold
  • Cukquean
  • Spanko
  • Spankee
  • Leather Man
  • Leather Woman
  • Leather Daddy
  • Leather Top
  • Leather Bottom
  • Leather boy
  • Leather girl
  • Leather boi
  • Bootblack
And a few we accidentally missed:
  • Ageplayer
  • Big
  • Middle
  • Daddy
  • Mommy
  • Little
Jan 26, 2017
Welcome to Episode #012 of #ProudToBeKinky, Bakji and Floss return this week to give you the lowdown on the various role options you might encounter when you join the scene. While other roles are available, for the purpose of this episode we are discussing the roles available on the Fetlife drop down menu, in the general information section of your Fetlife profile. This is going to be a two part discussion, so make sure to come back for Episode #013 where we will cover the roles we don’t get round to in this episode. In this episode we cover the more common roles that many of us will have heard of before we joined the scene, such as Dominant and submissive. There are so many things can feel like ‘must do’ things when you first join the scene, and sometimes we see new people rush to adopt their chosen role, and try their best to adhere to how they think that means they should behave. However, the more time you spend on the scene the more you realise that most people are fairly fluid in their approach to play and often encompass more than one role and whether or not you choose to use a role to identify your interests is most definitely a choice and not a necessity. We have approached each role with the standard definition that can be found in places such as the BDSM Glossary group on Fetlife. However lots of people choose to identify as a particular role but may attach their own definition to it. If you have adopted one of the roles discussed but approach in a different way we’d love to hear from you, so email us at Topics covered in this episode:
  • The more common roles encountered on the scene & their definitions
  • What roles to Bakji & Floss identify with and why
  • Where are Ben & Viv?
  • Shout Outs
Roles Covered in this Episode:
  • Dominant
  • Domme
  • Switch
  • Submissive
  • Master
  • Mistress
  • Slave
  • Top
  • Bottom
  • Sadist
  • Masochist
  • Sadomasochist
  • Kinkster
  • Fetishist
  • Swinger
  • Hedonist
  • Exhibitionist
  • Voyeur
  • Slut
  • Sissy
  • Rigger
  • Rope Top
  • Rope bottom
  • Rope bunny

Remember you can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife.

Jan 15, 2017
Welcome to Episode #011 of #ProudToBeKinky, where Bakji Ben and Floss are joined by two guests and friends of the show John and Sandy, a married Mistress and Slave.

Before I discuss what we talk about with John and Sandy, I’d just like to apologise for my lack of chatting in this episode, I was a poorly Floss on the day of recording so couldn’t quite manage much more than my own name. Also if anyone is wondering where Blue Ben and Viv have gone, fear not, they will be back soon, they are busy enjoying life, but we will definitely be hearing more from them in the near future.

Now back to this week's episode. We met John and Sandy on one of our adventures to a new Fetish Club, so they are more proof that all our talk about getting out there and getting social will be beneficial to you is definitely true. As well as fab friends they are also excellent Podcast guests, because they have their own unique story which shows another aspect of how people find their way onto the scene.

John and Sandy met at university and have been together for 14 years, married for 7, and have only joined the kink scene in recent years. Their journey into BDSM started like it does for many people with light bondage, sex toys and open communication and things slowly progressed from there.

Topics we cover in this episode:

  • How John and Sandy discovered they were kinky
  • What made John and Sandy join the Fetish scene
  • How it felt attending their first munch
  • How they came to run a munch & their thoughts on that
  • How they balance their dynamic with non-kink life

We hope you enjoy this episode, and remember if you’d like to offer any feedback or have any questions about the podcast, about kink or about the Fetish scene then drop us an email via You can also contact us through our Instagram, Twitter or Fetlife accounts.

Jan 8, 2017

Welcome to Episode #010 of #ProudToBeKinky, and our first episode of 2017. Bakji and Floss return as they offer up their ‘2016 Retrospective’ episode.

  Kinky 2016 Retrospective

Both Bakji and myself have had a busy year, and while many of our adventures have been enjoyed together, it doesn’t mean to say our take on things were the same. So in this episode they each select five of their highlights from 2016.

While this is a look back on the things we enjoyed in 2016, it’s also a chance to highlight the fun that can be had once you get yourself out there on the kink scene and socialising with other kinky people. I know it probably sounds easier for us as this year we’ve done new things as a couple this year, but remember we both joined the scene as single people who knew nobody, and have since met lots of lovely friends and through them each other.

So join us for this episode and find out the following:

  • Who copied whose list when some of our highlights match up (hint: I finished my list first so Bakji totally copied me)
  • Who finally got the hang of rope
  • Who really got into the swing of things with their suspensions
  • Who loves Latex
  • And a few other kinky highlights

We really hope you enjoy this episode, and if you have any feedback please remember that we love hearing from anyone who’s listening. You can email us on, comment on any of our posts on Instagram and Twitter or via our Fetlife account, just search for ProudToBeKinky. If you listen via iTunes and would like to leave a review of the podcast we’d be thrilled to read it.