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ProudToBeKinky Podcast

Welcome to the #ProudToBeKinky Podcast where we discuss the social and interpersonal side of kink, BDSM, fetish and alternative sexualities. We know it's scary, getting out there and trying to meet a like-minded kinky partner. “What if my friends find out?”, “What will people at work say?” Well you know what... it IS possible and we know because we did it. Now we share our adventures with you. We're not here to gossip... we just want to spread positivity and share with you what worked for us. Helping you in your endeavour to find a dom, sub, play-partner, top, bottom, boyfriend, girlfriend or even just some friends with the same consensual fetishes as you. Please enjoy #ProudToBeKinky.
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Jun 2, 2018

We got on a plane and travelled to New York City to bring you this episode. We met up with Dick and Max from Off the Cuffs for a joint episode featuring of of their listeners NerdyKinkster.

We discuss NerdyKinksters journey in kink and how she has been discovering some of the things she enjoys. She was invited onto the show after responding to an episode of Off the Cuffs where the subject of consensual kink versus sexual violence came up.

It was a pleasure to share our thoughts on this and a variety of other subjects, and meeting Dick and Max was definitely a highlight of the holiday. We also got to meet the lovely Pikachump who crops up regularly on Off the Cuffs.

The response to last weeks After Bit questions was awesome, so stay tuned until the very end to hear what our listeners had to say about kinks that made their brain so no way but their genitals say yes please. Our next questions is; ‘What obscure things do you do for aftercare?’ and we absolutely can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this.

Get in touch with us to share you After Bit answer, or with any other comments or questions. You can find us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook.

We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

 

May 26, 2018

Even in established dynamics like ours, we still have ongoing conversations around negotiating scenes and consenting to activities we are happy to engage in.

In new dynamics this is crucial to creating a feeling of safety and trust with your partner, without which there is not much of a foundation to build on.

We discuss what consent looks like for us, what makes us decide consent is not being enthusiastically given and how you can ask for consent in a sexy way.

If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms:

We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

This episode also see the return of our bonus section, now officially called ‘The After Bit’, please check out the full post ‘Boobs Behaving Badly’ we mention submitted by PixieHeart and thank you very much to Darn for his contribution too. If you have any stories for us, then get in touch, this week we talk about kinks that I totally made you say ‘No Way!’ But soon had you say ‘Yes! Yes! Yes!’.

 

May 1, 2018

Floss and Bakji are no strangers to talking about kink, but this week we are getting down and dirty with a discussion about sexual technique. What is it? Do we have it? And how does one improve it?

Some of the things we discuss in this episode are:

 

  • Have you ever had a sexual technique used on you that was surprisingly good?
  • How do you encourage your partner to learn new things without offending them?
  • Do you think there ways to increase sexual pleasure that people often overlook?
  • Do you have a favourite technique you like to use?
  • Are there any good resources on sexual technique?

A lot of this episode is about our personal preferences and we encourage everyone to discover their own likes and dislikes. If you’ve got a go to move though that always seems to get sexy results then we’d love to hear about it.

If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms:

We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Apr 23, 2018

Non-Monogamy came second in our recent Twitter poll about topics you’d like to hear us discuss. In this episode we discuss:

  • In general terms what do we mean when we refer to non-monogamy?
  • What does non-monogamy mean to us personally?
  • Has your view on what non-monogamy means for you changed with your experiences?
  • What resources have been beneficial in your non-monogamy journey?
  • What new terms did we learn when we started to embrace non-monogamy?
  • Can you ‘choose’ to be non-mono or does it need to be your natural inclination?
  • Do you have a thing you love most about non-monogamy? And a thing you struggle with most?

This week also introduces our new segment ‘Unnamed Bonus Section’. Which we hope will encourage listener participations for those of you who are so inclined.

If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms:

We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Apr 12, 2018

Confidence is our focus for this episode. More specifically is lack of confidence affecting your kink. If so, this episode is for you. Inspired by a blog post by Floss on her personal blog flossdoeslife.com. We attempt to give you some solutions to boost your kinky confidence, even if that just means faking it till you make it.

We would also like to say a huge thank you for your patience while we took a break from our regularly scheduled shows. The time of to freshen up and think of some awesome new podcast ideas was amazingly beneficial, and your ongoing support while we rested was very much appreciated.

Our top tips for increasing your kinky confidence are:

  • Start small
  • Hone your skills
  • Sensory deprivation for the win
  • They want your attention  
  • It’s not what you do it’s that you’re doing it
  • Trust that they fancy you (and your body)
  • Communicate about kinks
  • It’s okay to wear what feel sexy TO YOU
  • Be kind to each other when things don’t work
  • When things do work, celebrate them.

We discuss all these point in more depth and were applicable we also talk about how they have worked for us, and how we continually apply some of them to our own dynamic.

If you would like to hear more about how our dynamic unfolds within our own session then you can head over to our Patreon page where for $2 a month you can get access to all past and future FemDom and Fetish Fun episodes, where we share details of all our kinky sessions.

We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Drinks with God, Off the Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Dick Wounds new show Being There. You can find all of us on most available podcast apps, and as always we love to receive your reviews and feedback.

You can get in touch with us on any of our social media platforms or you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com.

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Mar 2, 2018

Room 101 is our inspiration this week as Bakji and Floss return with what we hope to be a fun episode. While originating in George Orwell’s 1984, Room 101 is said to be named after a conference room at the BBC where he attended incredibly boring meetings. In the novel 1984 it is a room where people are taken to face their worst fears. On a lighter note, it is also the name of a BBC comedy show, where guests are invited to put their pet peeves or worst fears into ‘Room 101’. The host of the show then decides whether or not their particular suggestions are worthy of being banished.

In our take on this, we each got to pick four things we would send to Room 101 if we got the chance. In keeping with the theme of our podcast the things we have chosen are relationship or sex based from our days before we met each other.

We also chose a wildcard each, which we were to present as a genuine suggestion and the other person had to guess which the wildcard was as we went along. One of us tried their best to disguise the wildcard and one of us picked a glaringly obvious wildcard. You will have to listen to find out which was which.

We also try to counteract our annoyance with these particular relationship habits, by offering up our solutions to what better alternatives are, and how we avoid those particular things in our time together.

If you have any comments on this episode, previous episodes or simply want to get in touch to say hello, then please do so on any of our social media platforms, Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook, or via hello [at] proudtobekinky.com.

If you would like more episodes from us then please head over to Patreon.com/proudtobekinky and for $2 a month you can have access to our Patron exclusive FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss all out kinky scenes.

We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean podcast, Drinks with God, and Dick Wounds new podcast Being There. You can find us all on most available podcast apps, and should your chosen app allow for reviews then we always love to receive those.

Feb 9, 2018
Sex toys and lots of them. That is what we have for you this week. We quite often use a few of our toys in our kinky play, and we mention them in passing but in this episode we are giving you our opinions of some of the products that we have acquired over the past few months. As a full disclaimer some of these products were sent to us for free in exchange for our reviews. For anyone who is new to sex toy reviewing, let me assure that free does not equal a great review as this episode will show. We have however tried to be fair in terms of it being suitable for others even if it doesn’t suit our particular needs. Both Bakji and Floss have picked three of their most recently used toys, although Floss rebels and actually talks about five. For prostate and anal play we discuss the following three products: For clitoral stimulation we discuss these products: Where possible I have linked to the sites we purchased from, or that the products were sent from. All the products we have used are marketed as using body safe materials, if you would like to know more about what sex toys are made from and what we mean by body safe then you can learn more by visiting dangerouslilly.com. Her information is by far the most comprehensive for this subject matter. If you are curious about our views on any other products then please do get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch with any other questions you may have about the podcast or kink in general. We can also be found on Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Drinks with God and the Will Sean podcast. We are all available on most podcast apps and keep those reviews coming too because they really do make our day, and they are so helpful in letting new listeners know we are absolutely worth a listen.
Jan 25, 2018
FemDom is our topic of discussion this week. Both Bakji and Floss are big, big fans of FemDom which you may have noticed if you are a regular listener. If you are a new listening then you about to join us in our little world of FemDom for the first time. Femdom Floss In Latex As a FemDom enthusiast Floss frequents quite a few forums related to the topic, including the FemDom sub-reddits. One of the recurring questions is ‘What do women get out of FemDom?’, the back and forth of these discussion made it clear that a lot of people were a bit uncertain as to why we enjoy it. One of the reasons that seems to make people question a woman’s reasons for enjoying female dominance is the misconception that is doesn’t involve sex for the woman. In most of these cases I think the sex that is being referred to is PIV, where as we tend to mean the entire spectrum of sexual activities when we discuss how we incorporate sex into our FemDom scenes. With these points in mind we discuss what FemDom looks like for us, and how it is satisfying and extremely enjoyable both with and with sexual pleasure, for both partners involved. Our perspective comes from our personal dynamic, where FemDom is included in our kinky dynamic. All experiences vary, part of this discussion though is hopefully highlighting a side of FemDom we may not always see portrayed publicly. We always love to hear feedback from you on recent or previous episodes, you can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through any of our social media accounts, Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook. If you’d like to hear more details about our kinky fun, you can do so by visiting our Patreon site and signing up for our Patrons only podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss our personal scenes in detail and talk about what we have planned for the future. We also love your reviews on iTunes, or other podcast apps where available. You can also review our fellow Podcast Jukebox members, Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean podcast.
Jan 21, 2018
Inspired by their own recent experiences and conversations Bakji and Floss discuss the fluidity of kink. We all know there are many kinks and fetishes to be discovered, but what happens when our favourites go out of favour and new passions evolve into something deeper? Floss has been thinking on this a lot lately, as it was her change feelings about a particular kink that started the conversation. Despite how often we talk about open and honest communication, and how we encourage people to be accepting and kind to themselves, it was still a tricky moment for Floss and hopes that in sharing it will help some of our listeners. While a lot of our discussion is based around the fluidity between switching roles, we also discuss the ebb and flow of kinks with a specific role and how as a couple or as play partners, the activities you enjoy most together can also change. We discuss how this has been for us and what our approach to it has been. We also reflect upon the kinks that have taken us by surprise, going from no interest in them, to curiosity or in some cases absolutely loving them. We are big believers is keeping ourselves open to new discoveries and experiences, and we hope this episode helps show why we think that’s important and how that approach has been extremely beneficial to us as individuals. We hope you enjoy this episode and as always if you have any feedback or questions please get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Facebook You can also find us on Patreon where you can find our second podcast, FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss the scenes we do, how we feel about all things FemDom and what we have coming up in terms of kinky fun. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available on most podcast apps, and would love a great review and star rating from you if your chosen app supports this.
Jan 5, 2018

Eyal Matsliah is a sexual empowerment coach, and the author of ‘Orgasm Unleashed’ - a guide to pleasure, healing and power. So we left kink behind for an episode to focus on the wonder of orgasms and the joy they can bring. While the book is aimed at women, it is also suitable for anyone who is looking to enhance their orgasmic experience and better learn about the pleasure their body can bring them. We speak to Eyal about what inspires him to do the work he does, what kind of work he does within his coaching and mentoring sessions and the benefits we can gain from engaging in some of Eyal’s approaches.

Floss not being one to shy away from sharing her own personal orgasm tales, asks Eyal some questions based on her own experiences, that listeners have previously related to when discussed in other episodes. If you have struggled to orgasm, find masturbation uninspiring or wonder where in the day you meant to schedule time for self-indulgence, we asked Eyal about all these things in the hope the answers will be informative. We also discuss some of the areas in which we may feel disconnected from our sexuality, or our sexual empowerment and what we can do to overcome this to connect, explore and delve deeper within ourselves, hopefully leading to not only a more fulfilling sex life, but a more fulfilling life in general.

You can find out more about Eyal and the work he does via his website Intimate Power. You can also find links to his book and other resources there too.

http://www.intimatepower.com/

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Orgasm-Unleashed-guide-pleasure-healing-ebook/dp/B015L4D8M6

To contact us about this episode, or about anything else, you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through our Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife Pages.

If you would like more of us, you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, through our Patreon page. In FemDom and Fetish Fun Floss and Bakji discuss their mutual love of FemDom and all the sexy details of the scenes they en joy. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast. We can all be found on most podcast apps, and we’d be lying if we said we don’t love awesome ratings and reviews. So please do send them our way if your app allows for them.

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