• Why someone will be into your kink
• Why it feels like no-one is into your kink
• Why people may not take you up on your kind offers to indulge in your kink
• How to enhance your chances of finding someone into your kink

For some people their BDSM related activities are strictly confined to the bedroom and therefor telling anyone outside of those involved is not necessary. However for some people BDSM becomes such a prominent part of their life that keeping it secret becomes very difficult. However it’s not always as simple as deciding to tell people what you may be into. Finding the delicate balance between too little and too much information is tricky.

Bakji, Blue Ben and Viv share their experiences and discuss what went well and not so well for them when they came out to some of their friends and they offer some advice in terms of what approaches you could take should you wish you to ‘come out’ to friends.

• Why you might want to ‘come out’
• How to approach the ‘coming out’ conversations
• How to stay private if you’d like to

Very much like munches, which we have covered in previous episodes, going to your first Fetish event can feel like a massive hurdle. However once you get there it can be a great chance to meet new people and experience new things. We do understand that going for the first time can be daunting, so in this episode Bakji and Floss do their best to give you a little bit of insight to make your first time feel a little less scary and a lot more fun.

Things we cover in this episode:

• Why you should go
• What to expect
• What to wear
• Fetish club etiquette

The links below are primarily London focused, as it’s our go to area for Fetish clubs. So here are a few tips for finding events near you:

• Search for ‘events near me’ on FetLife, you can also search for events your FetLife friends have RSVP’d to
• On FetLife join groups such as ‘UK Clubs & Munches’ & ‘BDSM Events Calendar’ the second of which is primarily for our American friends
• Ask around at Munches what events people are going to (another good reason to go to a Munch first)

You may need to travel a little to get to some of the bigger club nights. If you are struggling to find a Fetish night near you, or you’re not sure what event would suit you, please feel free to email us (hello [at] proudtobekinky.com) or drop us a message via our FetLife page and we’d be happy to help find you an suitable event.

• FetLife
• Toppers - Billed as London’s Friendliest Fetish Event (we’ve been and it is indeed very friendly)
• London Fetish Calendar - not sure what’s on and when in London, here’s a good place to find out.